Posts tagged personality
Posts tagged personality
When it comes to following instructions or rules, what type of personality are you?
1. The Upholder: This type of person is comfortable with rules, whether they’re these are their own rules, or externally imposed rules. For example, an upholder will try to follow through on their New Year resolutions, or stick to a study or an exercise schedule. They will also hand in all their work on time, and pay their bills as soon as they arrive.
2. The Questioner: This type of person will only follow rules if they make sense to them. They tend to question everything, and decide what they are going to do on a case by case basis. Thus, they’ll only do what’s reasonable and logical – and they have to be convinced that the rules are reasonable and logical.
3. The Rebel: This type of person resists any kind of control at all. They always feel as if their rights are being infringed, or as if they’re being pressurised or dominated. Thus, they will typically ignore, flaunt, or react against any guidelines, instructions or rules.
4. The Obliger: This type of person complies with external requirements and rules, but can’t impose any rules on themselves. Hence, they’ll set up a plan with a personal trainer but won’t actually make it to the gym on their own.
1. Shy-secure people: Don’t have a strong need to be around people, and don’t tend to worry about talking to new people. They can socialise if they need to, but they general prefer to be by themselves and to do things on their own.
2. Shy-withdrawn people: Suffer from social anxiety. They are highly sensitive to perceived rejection, are anxious of negative evaluation, and are afraid of doing something embarrassing. They suffer more anxiety than people who are shy-withdrawn.
3. Shy-dependent people: Are overly helpful, accommodating, self-effacing and compliant. They have a strong need to be with other people but they feel they are inferior or “not good enough”. They have good social skills and are pleasant company – but they give up their true self in their desire to fit in.
4. Shy-conflicted people: Vacillate between wanting to be around other people and then pulling back (as social situations are a real source of stress). This group of people experience the most stress and anxiety.
For more information see: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/200909/all-introversion-is-not-the-same
The Western world demands that we be extroverts. This can be stressful for an introverted person who feels she has to act, or change her personality. If you experience this, perhaps the following tips may help:
1. Most important, don’t feel bad about being an introvert. Be proud of who you are, and affirm your gifts and strengths. Remember, there’s no one ideal type of personality
2. Try and speak out more – even though you find it hard – as your viewpoints won’t be noticed if they’re never shared or heard. And what you think’s important – you deserve to have your say.
3. Give yourself a break and sometimes miss social events. There’s no point adding stress by doing more than you enjoy. Why should you go to everything, and not spend time alone?
4. Make sure you take the time to recharge your batteries – as spending time with people may tire and wear you out.
5. Also, take small breaks when you are part of a crowd. Try and just excuse yourself and spend a few moments alone.
1. They don’t like people.
2. They’re unfriendly, standoffish and aloof.
3. They lack emotions, and feel thing less intensely than others.
4. They’re not interested in what matters to other people – they don’t share their excitement or feel their pain.
5. They’re not easily hurt by others. You can exclude them, leave them out or walk over their feelings and it won’t affect them deeply.
6. They’re more serious, and have less of a sense of humour than extroverts.
1. Often introverts have a greater appreciation for nuances, subtlety and understatement.
2. They listen and process information carefully - so their comments and answers have real substance to them.
3. They think deeply about matters, and genuinely care.
4. Most are pretty self-sufficient, and can cope with being alone. Thus, they actually benefit from solitude.
5. They don’t judge themselves by how others rate them. This means they’re able to focus on the work they have to do.
6. They tend to be selective in the friendships they develop – and so prove to be a loyal and an understanding friend.
Common Introversion Traits
· Good self-knowledge, self-understanding and self-awareness
· Thinks and feels deeply
· Chooses their words carefully; gives considered responses
· Is interested in the details; wants a thorough understanding of things
· Is hesitant to shares their thoughts and feelings (unless it is someone they deeply trust)
· Is guarded and “hard to read”
· Tends to be more distant and reserved in large groups. or when they are with people they don’t know
· Can be outgoing, entertaining and gregarious around friends and family
· Learn best through observation (but need time to process their thinking, and to reach a deep and more complex understanding)
· Cautious; weighs the risks
· Tends to be more melancholic and to see the glass as being “half empty”
Common Extroversion Traits
· Warm, friendly, welcoming and inclusive
· Highly sociable; often a party animal
· Is comfortable around people they don’t know well
· Seeks adventure, novelty and excitement
· Tends to be impulsive and thinks less carefully about long term consequences
· Confident, persuasive and, often, assertive
· Cheerful, optimistic and good natured
· Tends to be more of a “glass half full” individual
· Readily shares their thoughts, feelings and opinions; wears their heart on their sleeve
· Is comfortable being the center of attention
· Action oriented; learns best through doing or trying
Introverts: An introvert is not just someone who is shy. Shyness includes a degree of apprehension, and a feeling of nervousness or anxiety in social situations, or around new people. This need not be true for an introvert. Instead, an introverted person may have great social skills, be entertaining and good company. However, they feel drained and tired after spending time with people – and to be re-energized they need to withdrawn, and be on their own.
Also, introverts are especially interested in the working of their inner world. They like to have time to think, to play with ideas, to experiment with concepts, and to explore their feelings. They also prefer to discuss these with others – rather than spending time on (what to them) feels like empty and superficial chatter.
Extroverts: These people are assumed to be full of life, outgoing and friendly. Although that is generally an apt description of them, it is not how extroversion is defined. In essence, an extrovert is someone who comes alive, and is energized, by spending time with others. On their own, they tend to wilt and feel down, or feel depressed and bored.
Also, although they like to think, they need to talk through their ideas. It’s not enough for them to explore these in their mind. They’re usually excellent at small talk, making others feeling included, and keeping things light-hearted, casual and fun.