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Roommates can be divided into the following types:

1. The thoughtless roommates: This is the person who leaves their stuff scattered around the room and never cleans or tidies up after themselves. First, remember that he or she is not deliberately trying to annoy you. However, you need to discuss this or nothing will change. When you do that, don’t come across as being angry and accusatory. Instead, stay casual, warm and friendly. Also, ask if there’s anything you can do to make life easier for them.

2. The “borrower”: This is the person who takes your stuff, and treats your belongings as if they’re also theirs. This can range from something small like a few slices of bread to something more important like your clothes or bike. Clearly, this is NOT OK and needs an open discussion so that everyone is clear as to what the boundaries are.  

3. The explosive flatmate: Often, this type of person seems calm and tolerant – then suddenly blows up over fairly minor things. Yet, we come from different backgrounds – and each person is unique – so different stuff annoys us or becomes an irritant. Here, a frank honest, discussion will often do the trick so that tension doesn’t build, and spoil a good relationship.

4. The irresponsible flatmate: This individual is unreliable and doesn’t seem to care about the impact of their actions. For example, they break stuff and just leave it, or forget to pay the bills … They never see it as their problem, and they just don’t seem to care. This person needs confronting in a firm, respectful way. And if things stay the same – don’t ever share with them again!

5. The ghost roommate: This is the person who is rarely around. They often have a busy life or else they travel with their job. They’re rarely problematic – so be glad that they’re so easy – and enjoy your time together when they happen to be there.

1. Pay attention to what bugs you – it could be telling you something important about yourself.

2. Don’t just live with blah or negative feelings. Decide that you will fight to have a happier life.

3. Don’t change or stifle your personality. You’re valuable and special – so be true to who you are.

4. Pay attention to your physical symptoms. They may be highlighting unresolved frustrations, pain that needs addressing, or deep unhappiness.

5. Notice where your mind goes when it starts to wander. This often gives you insights into wishes, hopes and dreams.

6. Be willing to acknowledge and face your fears as they’re stopping you from going for the life you want to have.

7. Instead of feeling jealous or envious of others ask yourself what is missing from your own life right now.   

1. Try and give your work your full and undivided attention. Don’t multitask or flip between activities when it is important to retain what you are learning.

2. Study over a number of equally spaced sessions instead of cramming the week before exams. That allows you to gradually consolidate your learning.

3. Organize your material in a related and logical way as it’s easier to memorize your work in chunks.

4. Use mnemonics to aid with recall. For example, rhymes, jokes and images can often help with this.

5. Relate new material to previous stuff you’ve learned. This establishes a relationship between the old and new.

6. Use visual materials – such as photographs and tables - to help you memorize numbers, dates and facts.

7. Share what you’re learning with someone else. Trying to teach others can highlight any flaws – or bits of the material you don’t know very well.

8. Spend extra time studying material in the middle and the end of the textbook. Also, allocate more time for more difficult work, or material that’s hard to really grasp and understand.   

1. Men use around 12,500 words a day whereas women use around 22,000 words a day.

2. Having a pet enhances your relationship skills.

3. Laughing reduces stress and helps to strengthen your immune system.

4. Laughter and smiling are contagious

5. Six foods that have been shown to improve your mood include oatmeal, cereal, salmon, milk, dark chocolate and bananas.

6. People who drink a moderate amount are happier than those who abstain from alcohol.

7. Using technology can increase stress and aggression levels.

8. Many animals mourn a loss in the same way as human beings do.

9. Our nose can identify over 50,000 different scents.

10. The human brain is move active in the night than in the daytime.

1. Realize that you’re not the only one. The reality is that most of us worry about the same kinds of things – such as whether others like us, are bored by others, or the kind of impression we’re making.

2. Try to uncover the roots of your anxiety. There may be a variety of reasons for feeling self-conscious, such as having had a bad experience in the past, feeling that you’re with people who are very different from you, or feeling you’re with people who don’t understand you. Also, it may simply be that you’re more introverted so social situations are more stressful for you.

3. Acknowledge the feelings as soon as they arise. That will enable you to start targeting them through positive self talk. For example, remind yourself that: “I always feel like this in these kinds of situations. I’m going to be okay. I usually cope – and I will this time, too.”

4. Fake looking and acting calm, relaxed, and self confident. In time, you’ll find your feelings will change to match the way you appear on the outside.

5. Also, acting warm and friendly helps put others at ease, and encourages them to feel more relaxed around you.

6. Try not to worry about what other people think. In reality, other people will often feel as nervous as you do. It’s just that they’ve learned how to cover it up. Also, some people think negatively about everyone. You’re never going to change this kind of person – and you don’t need their approval anyway!

7. Be kind to yourself. Praise, affirm and reward yourself for deciding to do something that’s difficult for you.  

1. Be generous with your smiles

2. Listen attentively when people talk to you.

3.  Be warm and friendly. If you don’t know the people in the group, be the first one to introduce yourself.

4.  Pay others compliments (make sure they are genuine – and not fake).

5.  Be considerate and polite to both friends and strangers.

6.  If you’re going to a party or social event, offer to be the designated driver.

7.  Turn up on time (or arrive a few minutes early).

8.  Overlook minor mistakes.

9. Never shame or embarrass others.

10.  Give people the benefit of the doubt. If uncertain, think the best, not the worst of others.