Posts tagged love
Posts tagged love
1. Shared sense of humour; lots of laughter and fun
2. Little gestures of thoughtfulness
3. Personal space (there needs to be separateness in your togetherness)
4. Having the ability to spend hours together (simply doing routine or humdrum things)
5. Having “fairness and respect” rules in place for when you argue or fight
6. Having an attraction that goes beyond the physical; liking each other, and their personality
7. Believing that your partner has what it takes to live the life that they want to live – believing in them always, and especially when they’re down
8. Having a relationship that’s built on trust, openness, honesty and faithfulness.
1. Try not to take it personally. Some relationships were never meant to be, and some simply don’t work out in the end. It isn’t always a reflection on you (or even them).
2. Act as if you’re happy, and are coping, with your life. Often, “fake it till you make” can make a difference. It can give you needed strength so you can make it through each day.
3. Choose to be thankful for the happy memories; and choose to forgive all the heartache and the pain.
4. See this as a stepping stone – the future lies ahead. You may still meet someone special who will bring you happiness!
5. Let go of the old memories, the unmet expectation, the bitter disappointments and frustrated hopes and dream. Only then will you be ready to live and love again.
6. Be patient, understanding and kind to yourself. It takes time to recover from a major loss in life.
1. Go through – don’t hide from - the experience. You need to fully experience all the negative emotions before the healing process can begin.
2. Allow yourself to wallow in your independence. Don’t rush into a new relationship. You don’t need another person to make you feel complete. You’re enough in yourself. You are NOT inadequate.
3. Make a list of your strengths. It’s important that you focus on your good qualities as a broken heart can cause our self-esteem to plummet. Make a note of your successes and accomplishments. They didn’t disappear with the relationship!
4. Don’t try to suppress all the memories you have. Allow yourself some time to go over one or two … But don’t pitch your tent there - as the future’s now your focus.
5. Reach out to others who are suffering. You’re not the only person who is having a hard time (although you often feel you are when you’re broken-hearted) … and comforting another will distract you from your pain.
6. Allow yourself to laugh, and allow yourself to cry. Both of these are healing, and can bring release. They can help us feel more “normal”, and can bring a sense of peace.
7. Make a “good and bad list”. Make a list of all the things that you need to stop doing, to try and put some distance between you and them. For example, if you’re always checking their stuff on facebook then you’ll likely find it is harder to get them out mind. Alternatively, going out for a jog or meeting up with a friend can help to lift your spirits, and to change the way you feel.
8. Hang onto your hope. When a relationship ends (or if our love is unrequited) we can feel that life is pointless as there’s nothing good ahead. But the future is still open – and there’s definitely hope … And one day you will notice that you’re smiling naturally.
1. Trust people when they tell you that they love you. Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to take the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of love because you are afraid the person does not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do.
2. Stop fearing loss. A common reason for not being able to receive love is a prior experience of losing someone you loved. However, if you spend all your life pushing aside love on the off-chance that the person might withdraw it again, you will always feel cynical and unsure. Instead, embrace their love, and go with the flow, expecting those who offer love to stay around.
3. Love yourself. This might be the hardest step of all. However, if you don’t love yourself then receiving love is impossible - because you don’t believe that you deserve to be loved. If this is the case, start working on why you can’t love yourself. This might include seeking help to explore the issues behind the belief. Remember that every person is special - and that you deserve to be loved.
4. Let love in and don’t block it. Being open and receptive to the love that others offer is something you can learn with practice, over time. Don’t let the urge to be cynical or tough take over. Instead, let down your defenses, and accept support from others.
5. Observe how children receive love. They accept what is said, and view receiving love as natural. Re-learn what was once was innate – and choose to trust again.
Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Receive-Love (adapted)