Posts tagged introvert
Posts tagged introvert
1. Qualities and Traits of Extroverts
- Outgoing and sociable; may begin to feel down if they spend too time alone
- Active, energetic, enthusiastic and lively
- Expressive and affectionate
- Like adventure and new experiences
- Often seem courageous and confident
- Like to pursue a wide variety of interests
- Spontaneous and impulsive
- May have a low boredom threshold
2. Qualities and Traits of Introverts
- Prefer to think more and talk less
- Prefer solitary to group activities; find it exhausting being around people all the time
- Dislike being centre stage
- Makes carefully thought out decisions (Like to have all the facts available, and have time to weigh up all the pros and cons)
- More subdued and less excitable; may appear to be lacking in energy and enthusiasm
- May seem shy, detached and hard to get to know
- Prefers to focus on a few key interests than to be involved in a lot of different things
- Are good at amusing themselves.
3. Qualities and Traits of Ambiverts
Although many individuals will tend to demonstrate either more extroverts or introverts personalities, many others will feel they are a mixture of the two. These types of people are known as ambiverts. That is, ambiverts display the traits of introverts in some situations, and extroverts in others.
People who are highly sensitive, often struggle with the following:
1. They are easily overwhelmed, and often feel stressed through being overstimulated: That is, they often feel exhausted, stressed, worn out and worn down by processing so much detail - or through vicariously experiencing too much pain in the lives of others.
2. They are more personally affected by others’ emotions: Thus, they find it hard to detach themselves, or throw off the feelings and heartache of others. Instead, they tend to absorb anger, pain and distress when others around them are experiencing these.
3. They need more time and space for themselves: In order to restore their boundaries, to refresh their minds and renew their energy, highly sensitive people need to retreat, and to spend time alone. Unfortunately, others may jude them as being unsociable as they don’t understand their need to withdraw.
4. They may feel driven by unhealthy perfectionism: They often have unrealistic expectations, and are harsh, unforgiving and demanding of themselves. This is because they overanalyse, and worry about what other people think and want. (Related to this, many highly sensitive people also suffer from low self-esteem.)
5. They may feel out of sync with the people around them: The western world values extroverted people who are confident, lively and highly sociable. This can add extra pressure to more sensitive people who are cautious, and careful of the judgments of others. They can also feel they’re seen as being too sensitive, or as too emotional, or not tough enough.
For more information see: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/03/28/5-gifts-of-being-highly-sensitive/
Sensitivity, like all traits, is on a continuum. As a general principle, more highly sensitive people:
1. Are particularly attuned to the richness and nuances of experience. They have an eye for detail and tend to experience things more intensely, and in a more discriminating way.
2. Are more attuned, and alert to, nuances in meaning. This can make them more cautious as they tend to think more carefully about the possible effects and consequences of their choices, decisions and actions.
3. Are more emotionally aware - both of their own and others’ experiences of pleasure, discomfort and pain.
4. Are more empathic – as they find they almost unconsciously put themselves in the shoes of other people, and can imagine what life is like from their perspective.
5. Are highly creative and expressive individuals. They are able to express experiences in a myriad of different ways.
1. Shy-secure people: Don’t have a strong need to be around people, and don’t tend to worry about talking to new people. They can socialise if they need to, but they general prefer to be by themselves and to do things on their own.
2. Shy-withdrawn people: Suffer from social anxiety. They are highly sensitive to perceived rejection, are anxious of negative evaluation, and are afraid of doing something embarrassing. They suffer more anxiety than people who are shy-withdrawn.
3. Shy-dependent people: Are overly helpful, accommodating, self-effacing and compliant. They have a strong need to be with other people but they feel they are inferior or “not good enough”. They have good social skills and are pleasant company – but they give up their true self in their desire to fit in.
4. Shy-conflicted people: Vacillate between wanting to be around other people and then pulling back (as social situations are a real source of stress). This group of people experience the most stress and anxiety.
For more information see: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/200909/all-introversion-is-not-the-same
1. Make a list if the types of situation that trigger feelings of shyness.
2. Think about 4 or 5 specific occasions. Analyse who was there, how they were behaving, what they said, and your own self talk, to try and identify some common shared factors.
3. Based on this, identify what might help (For example, would it help if you stood near a friend and had them talk “just to you” sometimes; or do you need to work on changing the way you think and talk about yourself; or do you need to pace yourself so that you can escape and be by yourself every 10 or 15 minutes?)
4. Keep reminding yourself of your different strengths. They are a central part to who you are - yet we tend to forget all our positives once we feel anxious, self conscious or shy.
5. Watch the way other people behave - and try and act your way to change. Notice how they tend to behave, interact, and the kind of topics and jokes they use. These are mainly skills that you can copy and acquire. Observe other people – to see if that could help.
6. You may find it helpful to remember that, in most situations, people can’t tell how you feel. That means you can simply pretend that you feel confident – even if you feel shy and anxious inside.
7. Also, most people are too busy thinking of themselves to think about the way you come across to them. Thus, they many not remember you as being very shy, and they may think you’re fun and are great company. It’s just that you remember your powerful emotions, and were judging how you seemed from your point of view.