Posts tagged introvert
Posts tagged introvert
1. They don’t like people.
2. They’re unfriendly, standoffish and aloof.
3. They lack emotions, and feel thing less intensely than others.
4. They’re not interested in what matters to other people – they don’t share their excitement or feel their pain.
5. They’re not easily hurt by others. You can exclude them, leave them out or walk over their feelings and it won’t affect them deeply.
6. They’re more serious, and have less of a sense of humour than extroverts.
1. Often introverts have a greater appreciation for nuances, subtlety and understatement.
2. They listen and process information carefully - so their comments and answers have real substance to them.
3. They think deeply about matters, and genuinely care.
4. Most are pretty self-sufficient, and can cope with being alone. Thus, they actually benefit from solitude.
5. They don’t judge themselves by how others rate them. This means they’re able to focus on the work they have to do.
6. They tend to be selective in the friendships they develop – and so prove to be a loyal and an understanding friend.
Common Introversion Traits
· Good self-knowledge, self-understanding and self-awareness
· Thinks and feels deeply
· Chooses their words carefully; gives considered responses
· Is interested in the details; wants a thorough understanding of things
· Is hesitant to shares their thoughts and feelings (unless it is someone they deeply trust)
· Is guarded and “hard to read”
· Tends to be more distant and reserved in large groups. or when they are with people they don’t know
· Can be outgoing, entertaining and gregarious around friends and family
· Learn best through observation (but need time to process their thinking, and to reach a deep and more complex understanding)
· Cautious; weighs the risks
· Tends to be more melancholic and to see the glass as being “half empty”
Common Extroversion Traits
· Warm, friendly, welcoming and inclusive
· Highly sociable; often a party animal
· Is comfortable around people they don’t know well
· Seeks adventure, novelty and excitement
· Tends to be impulsive and thinks less carefully about long term consequences
· Confident, persuasive and, often, assertive
· Cheerful, optimistic and good natured
· Tends to be more of a “glass half full” individual
· Readily shares their thoughts, feelings and opinions; wears their heart on their sleeve
· Is comfortable being the center of attention
· Action oriented; learns best through doing or trying
Introverts: An introvert is not just someone who is shy. Shyness includes a degree of apprehension, and a feeling of nervousness or anxiety in social situations, or around new people. This need not be true for an introvert. Instead, an introverted person may have great social skills, be entertaining and good company. However, they feel drained and tired after spending time with people – and to be re-energized they need to withdrawn, and be on their own.
Also, introverts are especially interested in the working of their inner world. They like to have time to think, to play with ideas, to experiment with concepts, and to explore their feelings. They also prefer to discuss these with others – rather than spending time on (what to them) feels like empty and superficial chatter.
Extroverts: These people are assumed to be full of life, outgoing and friendly. Although that is generally an apt description of them, it is not how extroversion is defined. In essence, an extrovert is someone who comes alive, and is energized, by spending time with others. On their own, they tend to wilt and feel down, or feel depressed and bored.
Also, although they like to think, they need to talk through their ideas. It’s not enough for them to explore these in their mind. They’re usually excellent at small talk, making others feeling included, and keeping things light-hearted, casual and fun.
1. Respect their need for privacy and to spend time on their own.
2. Be careful never to embarrass them in public.
3. When they are in a new situation, allow them to stand back, and watch what’s going on.
4. Allow them time to process what you’re asking or saying. Don’t demand an answer right away.
5. Be patient if they hesitate to find the right words – and never interrupt while they are speaking.
6. If you are going to change or cancel plans, give them plenty of prior notice.
7. Allow them to practice and perfect skills alone.
8. Correct or challenge them privately – never in front of an audience.
9. Don’t force them to hang out with a crowd of people, or expect them to amass a lot of friends. A few good friends is more comfortable for them.
10. Don’t try to turn them into an extrovert. Respect them for being exactly who they are.