Posts tagged happiness
Posts tagged happiness
1. The need to always be right – and to be affirmed by others as being right.
2. The need to control other people, and the circumstances of your life.
3. Any tendency to play “the victim role”.
4. Negative and destructive self-talk.
5. Self-defeating and limiting core beliefs. (“I’m worthless; no-one will ever want or love me; I’ll never amount to anything in life.”)
6. Whining and complaining – about your own personal weaknesses and failures … or the flaws and shortcomings of others … or difficult, unjust or trying circumstances.
7. A critical and harsh attitude.
8. The need to please and impress other people (or to live up to other people’s expectations).
9. Being paralysed by anxiety and fear – so you won’t take risks or try different things.
10. Regrets and resentments related to the past – as the past can’t be changed – but the future is still yours.
Happy people value and choose:
1. Love over Fear: People, who are truly happy, are less fearful and more loving. They perceive every moment, every challenge, and every person as an opportunity to learn more about themselves and the world.
2. Acceptance over Resistance: Happy people know that you can’t really change things by denying and resisting them. So when bad things happen, they don’t fight, get angry and complain. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better?
3. Forgiveness over Unforgiveness: Truly happy individuals understand that it’s destructive to hold on to feelings of anger. Instead, they choose to forgive and let go, understanding that (in the end) forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.
4. Trust over Mistrust: They trust themselves … and they have learned to figure out the trustworthy people – and those they should avoid.
5. Meaning over Ambition: Happy people do the things they do because it adds meaning and purpose to their lives. They’re not driven by the need to gain acceptance, praise and approval from others.
6. Challenges over Obstacles: Happy people see problems as challenges, and as opportunities to explore new ways of seeing and doing things. That is, challenges are something that help them to grow.
7. Selflessness over Selfishness: Happy people seek out ways ways to give to others - of themselves, their time, of their money, and their gifts. That is, they’re not self-focused and self-absorbed.
8. Kindness over Harshness: Happy people are gentle and kind with themselves and others. They know the importance and power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance - and they freely love, forgive and accept other people, too.
9. Gratitude over Ingratitude: No matter where they are, or who they are with, happy people have the capacity to see beauty where others would only see ugliness – and they’re quick to express their gratitude, as well.
10. Being Present over Being Disengaged: Happy people know how to live in the moment, appreciating what they have and who they are with. They are not constantly being dragged down by the past, or distracted by what could happen (or go wrong) in the future.
11. Positivity over Negativity: Regardless of the circumstances of life, happy people are able to adopt and maintain a positive, and upbeat, attitude and perspective.
12. Taking Responsibility over Blaming: Happy people assume full ownership for their lives. They assume responsibility for their life, choices, decisions, actions, reactions, beliefs and attitudes.
1. You are unique. There’s no-one on the planet quite like you!
2. You are loved – probably much more than you realise.
3. You have the chance to give love to others.
4. You still have time to change your life.
5. You have the chance to be creative, and experiment with your gifts.
6. You can explore your interests and learn new things.
8. You have the chance to enjoy the gift of laughter.
9. You can experience and enjoy eating, sleeping, friendships, music, the beauty of nature, animals, the scent of flowers, etc.
10. Even when today has been a bad day, you get a new start tomorrow – and can turn a fresh page.
11. You can dance, sing, jog, ski, cycle, run a marathon – or participate in any sports or form of exercise that brings you pleasure.
12. You can travel, meet new people, and broaden your perspective on life.
13. You can hang out at a lake or you can walk along the beach – and enjoy skimming stones, and being a kid again.
14. You can splash in puddles in the rain, or skate on the ice, or throw snowballs at your friends.
15. You can choose to make a difference in someone else’s life, and brighten their day, and bring a smile to their face.
1. Have a good core group of friends.
2. Build some adventure into your life. Don’t fall into “the same old, same old”.
3. Research confirms that “stuff won’t make us happy” so clear out the junk – and only keep what you love.
4. Work on establishing balance in your life. Don’t be too busy or you’ll wind up depressed.
5. Give in to temptation every now and again. Too much discipline is boring in the end.
6. Like and appreciate yourself. Take time to notice and affirm your strengths.
7. Start living in the moment – don’t doubt every move. Accept your decision as the best one for right now.
1. Consciously teach yourself to relax, and practice relaxation as soon as you feel stressed.
2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink.
3. A warm shower or bath can help our muscles to relax, and can help ease the tension in our body and mind.
4. Talking with someone who accepts us as we are – and is nonjudgmental – is highly therapeutic.
5. Recognise that there are things that are outside our control – and there are some situations that we simply cannot change.
6. Reward and indulge yourself with things that you enjoy so you feel respected and valued as a person. (For example, buy some clothes you love, or get your hair and nails done)
7. Make an effort to establish and maintain a work/ life balance. You need to make time for your hobbies, and to hang out with your friends.
8. Organise your time, and prioritise your tasks. You’ll feel a lot less anxious if you get things done on time.
9. Recognise that you have limits and enforce your boundaries. If you live with too much pressure you will end up overwhelmed.
10. Keep a sense of humour – smile and laugh throughout the day.
1. Boredom drains our energy, and leads to feelings of apathy and listlessness.
2. It eats away at our motivation, and stops us from performing at our best. That, in turn, increases our levels of stress.
3. Boredom at school and work affects all ability levels – there is very little difference in how bored people feel, and how often they feel bored in these environments.
4. It is the second most common suppressed emotion (after anger). When we suppress our emotions it creates stress in our body and minds. This undermines our immune system and makes us more susceptible to illness and disease.
5. Boredom is exacerbated by having fewer people around you (for example, if you are a shift worker or you’re studying at home, alone). It could also be a greater source of stress for more extroverted individuals.
6. It may be partly due to our increasing need for constant stimulation – which also makes it harder for us to relax.
7. When we feel bored we tend to withdraw, or to become impatient, irritable, short-tempered, hostile and aggressive around others. That puts a strain on relationships.
8. Boredom often leads to participating in higher risk activities. These are stressful in themselves, and also have stressful side-effects. (For example, dangerous driving, or experimenting with drugs.)