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How to Develop Contentment

1. Spend time with contented people, and those who are grateful for what they have in life.
2. Choose to celebrate the good things in life, even when things are tough, or much harder than you’d like.
3. Brighten up the lives of others you encounter with random acts of kindness – and helping when you can.
4. Be the kind of person who often “plays it forward” and is caring, understanding, patient, warm and generous.
5. Live in the moment and just enjoy “right now” – and be fully present with the people in your life.
6. Think of all the people who have helped along the way, and added to your life, or have been a source of joy.
7. Make a list of all the list things that you are thankful for – from a sunset, to hot chocolate, to a warm bed to sleep in.

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How to Cope with Hurt and Pain

1. Try to give it form and to put it into words. Don’t allow it to be shapeless as that’s harder to resolve.
2. Agree that you will look at it and not ignore the pain - as any unexpressed emotions lead to problems later on.
3. Avoid triggers and memories that take you back in time, and open up old wounds, so you feel the pain again.
4. Ground yourself in the present and who you are today – and remember you have strengths, and good people in your life.
5. Don’t allow the hurt and pain to take control of who you are, or limit what you’ll do, or the goals you set yourself.
6. Spend as much time as possible with those who treat you well – with those who see your worth, and who love and value you.

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How to Accept Yourself

1. Focus on your positive qualities. It’s true that we can all improve in some ways – but start by finding your good qualities – and recognise that these are a major part of who you are.

2. Be aware of, and fight against, your negative self-talk. Negative self talk can quickly snowball and become an angry tirade against yourself – so you become your own worst critic and your own worst enemy. Instead, choose to respect yourself, to love, affirm and believe in yourself.

3. Don’t dwell on things you know you cannot change. We all have imperfections, weaknesses and flaws. They’re really not that crucial, and they’re not that big a deal. Try to keep them in perspective – and change what you CAN change.

4. Make your own decisions – don’t always look to others, and think that they know better … But choose to trust yourself.

6. Always try to do your best – as that’s all that is required. You’re a normal human being who’ll sometimes get it wrong. When you do, just forgive youself, then get up and move on.

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How to Increase your happiness

1. Experiment to find out what makes you happy. The answer will be different for different people.

2. Develop a network of supportive friends who love you as you are, who will be there when you need them.

3. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude, and don’t forget to notice when little things go well!

4. Be the type of persons who’s focused on solutions and isn’t always bogged by problems, or complaints.

5. Accept that nothing’s perfect – and problems will occur. It doesn’t mean it’s hopeless or things will never change.

6. Treat yourself, and others, with kindness and respect. Remember we’re all struggling to find our way in life.

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How to be Popular

1. Don’t try to be popular – Try and be natural around other people. Don’t seek for approval or try to impress.

2. Think about others, and not just yourself – Listen to others, be kind, considerate, and don’t only talk about yourself and your life.

3. Be generous and large-hearted – Don’t draw attention to others’ mistakes; overlook small offenses and be ready to forgive. Also, appreciate everything that others do for you, and notice their hard work, achievements and success.

4. Watch your ego – No-one likes hanging out with a person who brags, or who thinks that they are better than everyone else.

5. Work on your sense of humour – Don’t take yourself too seriously. Just laugh at your mistakes, and any stupid things you say. Also, try to brighten others’ day, and put a smile on their face (but be careful not to bore them with a list of corny jokes!)

6. Quietly focus on character – People are attracted to those with character … so influence by example; let your life speak for you.

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How to Find your Purpose

1. Take time to ponder the questions “What really matters in life; what do I want to have achieved when I look back over my life?”

2. Make time for solitude and silence. Filling every minute makes it hard to listen to our intuition, or that inner guiding voice.

3. Seek out people who inspire you – and then learn from them. There are many people who live inspiring lives. We can learn from their experience, and what they have to share.

4. Consciously monitor your progress. It is easy to slip back into unproductive habits. Hence, we need to be committed to sticking to our plan.

5. Accept that struggles and setbacks will be part of your experience. There will be times when you are tempted to give up and stop trying … but choosing to keep going will lead you to your dreams.

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