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7 Insights for your Life

1. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t wreck your future. You are not who you were, or what happened to you.
2. What other people think is irrelevant to you. Don’t give them a thought. Go ahead and live your life.
3. Things will look different in a month or two from now. Just give it time, and be patient with yourself.
4. Don’t allow others to determine your worth. Believe in, and love, and respect yourself.
5. Don’t compare your journey with the journey of others. We start from different places, and everyone’s unique.
6. Try not to overthink things. It only keeps you stuck.
7.Smile, enjoy the moment, and live life to the full..

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7 Secrets of Happiness

1. Have a good core group of friends.
2. Build some adventure into your life. Don’t fall into “the same old, same old”.
3. Research confirms that “stuff won’t make us happy” so clear out the junk – and only keep what you love.
4. Work on establishing balance in your life. Don’t be too busy or you’ll wind up depressed.
5. Give in to temptation every now and again. Too much discipline is boring in the end.
6. Like and appreciate yourself. Take time to notice and affirm your strengths.
7. Start living in the moment – don’t doubt every move. Accept your decision as the best one right now.

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Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet

To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them

To look at the sunny side of everything, and to make your optimism come true

To only think the best, to only work for the best, and to expect only the best

To be just as enthusiastic about the successes of others as you are about your own

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but in great deeds.

Christian D. Larson

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Shame

Shame is the deeply held belief that, at core, there is something wrong with me. So, no matter what I do, or how hard I try, I can never measure up and be good enough. Thus, I expect other people to reject me in the end, and deep down inside I reject myself.  

If I have a shame based identity, I am likely to battle with the following feelings:

  • · Feeling like a fraud
  • · Feeling like I have to cover up all the time
  • · Fear of being exposed for who and what I truly am
  • · Feeling powerless  
  • · Feeling as if I don’t have, or deserve, a voice
  • · Wishing I could just disappear
  • · Feeling vulnerable
  • · Feeling very needy – and perhaps too needy, compared to other people
  • · Feeling like I always disappoint myself and others.

The “shame bound” person is constantly struggling against these persistent and negative feelings. They are triggered easily, and by innocuous triggers, such as being overlooked or contradicted by a friend. This can then result in a powerful “shame attack” that is so intense that we’re completely paralysed, and completely overwhelmed, by our sense of worthlessness. These debilitating feelings can persist for days, or months.

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Tips for Finding Inspiration

1. Go for a walk in nature, and take your camera with you

2. Set aside some time for peace and solitude, in a place that is comforting or beautiful (on a secluded beach, in the forest, in the mountains, by a river, in a log cabin etc)

3. Watch your dog or a young child play, and loving just exploring or enjoying the “now”

4. Practice deep breathing, or pray, or meditate

5. Watch a TED talk, or read inspiring blogs

6. Try something new, that’s outside your comfort zone

7. Find new ways to express your sense of creativity (and just start with something small if you feel that’s been suppressed – such as journaling, or writing a poem or a song)

8.  Think of music that moves you … and explore the “why” behind that

9. Think of people who inspire you, and push you to be “more”

10. Make a list of everything you’re thankful for, and add to that list every day for a week.

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