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10 Tips for Making New Friends

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1. Listen to people when they’re talking; show an interest in what they have to say.

2. Make an effort to remember peoples’ names and use them the next time you meet them.

3. Follow up with people you are interested in staying in touch with. Call them up, send them an email or arrange to meet…

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How to have More and Better Friends

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1. To have a friend we must be a friend. So, start by considering the type of friend you are to others. Ask yourself, are you kind, loyal, warm, understanding, sensitive, forgiving, helpful, reliable and so on?

2. Think about what you want in a friend. What kinds of traits are important to you?

3. Create opportunities to get to know others better. For example, go to parties and social events (and when you are there introduce yourself to others); invite others over to your house, or out to the cinema with you.

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How to have more and better friends

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. To have a friend we must be a friend. So, start by considering the type of friend you are to others. Ask yourself, are you kind, loyal, warm, understanding, sensitive, forgiving, helpful, reliable and so on?

2. Think about what you want in a friend. What kinds of traits are important to you?

3. Create opportunities to get to know others better. For example, go to parties and social events (and when you are there introduce yourself to others); invite others over to your house, or out to the cinema with you.

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Supporting a Friend with Mental Health Concerns

1. People with mental health problems are likely to need different kinds of supports at different times.
2. Probably the most important thing you can do is to listen in a caring, and non-judgmental way. That simple act will usually mean a lot as mental health issues are often misunderstood by the general population.
3. Always treated the person with respect, acceptance and compassion.
4. You don’t have to do too much – just stay in contact with your friend, invite them over, or hang out with them.
5. Remember that your friend is looking for a friend – and not a counselor, or psychiatrist.
6. Offering practical support can be the right thing at times, as going through a hard can leave you feeling overwhelmed.

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How to Recognise a Toxic Friend

1. Is this a person who always puts you down? A friend is someone who accepts you as you are – and allows you to be different, and to think for yourself, and to make your own decisions – without an explanation. However, if a person is demeaning or always puts you down, criticises your opinions, or the way you dress or look, then that’s someone to avoid as they’re a toxic friend.

2. Do they gossip about you? A friend is someone you can totally trust. You can share your deepest secrets, and say what’s on your mind – and they won’t tell a person or betray your trust. However, if you always have to watch what you say around a friend as they’re likely to gossip or let something slip then it’s likely that this person is a toxic friend.

3. Do they constantly mock and make fun of you? A bit of gentle ribbing shows affection between friends. But if they’re always making fun of you, or highlighting your faults, or attacking you in public, then they’re not a genuine friend.

4. How do you feel after being with your friend? Think about your answers to the following:

- Do you feel defensive when you spend time with them?
- Do you feel hurt or upset after spending time with them?
- Do you feel as if you always have to justify yourself instead of being “natural” around your friend?
- Do you enjoy their company or do you feel ambivalent?
- Do they undermine your confidence and self-esteem?
- Do you feel attacked and used after spending time with them?
- Does the friendship feel unbalanced and require a lot of work?
- Is it more a competition than a genuine friendship?

Note: If you recognize the signs of a toxic friend, then it’s time to move on and find a different friend. Being with this individual will wreak your happiness.

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