Posts tagged change
In order to fly, you have to let go of the world you’re hanging on to.
What made you happy once may not make you happy now.
Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.
We are torn between nostalgia for the familiar and an urge for the foreign and strange. As often as not, we are homesick most for the places we have never known.
How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart, you begin to understand, there is no going back? There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep…that have taken hold.
Don’t stumble over something that’s behind you.
It is okay to be at a place of struggle. Struggle is just another word for growth. Even the most evolved beings find themselves in a place of struggle now and then. In fact, struggle is a sure sign to them that they are expanding; it is their indication of real and important progress. The only one who doesn’t struggle is the one who doesn’t grow. So if you are struggling right now, see it as a terrific sign — and celebrate your struggle.
That’s the worst of growing up, and I’m beginning to realize it. The things you wanted so much when you were a child don’t seem half so wonderful to you when you get them.
Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, you must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life.
When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can’t make them change if they don’t want to, just like when they do want to, you can’t stop them.
It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
I’m choosing happiness over suffering. I’m making space for the unknown future to fill up my life with yet-to-come surprises.
Questions to Ask When Making a Decision
1. What is holding me back from going ahead and making the decision?
2. What is my biggest fear?
3. What will my life be like if things turn out badly?
4. What will my life be like if things go exactly as I hope?
5. Who else is affected by my decision, and what are their thoughts and feelings?
6. How important are their thoughts and feelings?
7. Is there any other information I need, or facts that are important, for making the decision?
8. What would make the decision easier?
9. Can I test the water first, or take a few small steps?
10. How will I feel 10 years from now – if I say “yes” or if I say “no”?
How to Accept Yourself
1. Focus on your positive qualities. It’s true that we can all improve in some ways – but start by finding your good qualities – and recognise that these are a major part of who you are.
2. Be aware of, and fight against, your negative self-talk. Negative self talk can quickly snowball and become an angry tirade against yourself – so you become your own worst critic and your own worst enemy. Instead, choose to respect yourself, to love, affirm and believe in yourself.
3. Don’t dwell on things you know you cannot change. We all have imperfections, weaknesses and flaws. They’re really not that crucial, and they’re not that big a deal. Try to keep them in perspective – and change what you CAN change.
4. Make your own decisions – don’t always look to others, and think that they know better … But choose to trust yourself.
6. Always try to do your best – as that’s all that is required. You’re a normal human being who’ll sometimes get it wrong. Get up, forgive youself, then just choose to move on.
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.
