Posts tagged change
Posts tagged change
1. Step back from yourself and try and understand “why you did what you did” as an outside observer. That will often help you to be more compassionate - and less self-critical, judgmental and harsh.
2. Recognise that no situation, relationship, choice, action or decision defines you as a person. They are part of the picture – but never more than that. Also, you still have the future to do things differently!
3. Accept that good and bad things happen to everyone in life. It just means you are human – and that life is never perfect. Don’t let hurt, anger, bitterness or unforgiveness transform you into someone you don’t really want to be.
4. Empty your cup of all that’s negative. Decide to be someone who’s usually positive, thankful, resilient, inspiring and free!
5. Believe in yourself, and your vision for your life. Set some goals; work towards them; keep on going; persevere.
6. Live in the present and enjoy the moment. We miss out on so much when we’re always looking back.
7. Accept that life is a journey and you’ll encounter obstacles. Decide to be flexible and learn to adapt. There are unexpected lessons that can grow and mature us so we end up better people, who have strength and character.
8. Be grateful for the people who contribute to your life. Think of all those who love you, who have shown you kindness, who have been there to support you, and who wish you well in life.
1. Listen to people when they’re talking; show an interest in what they have to say.
2. Make an effort to remember peoples’ names and use them the next time you meet them.
3. Follow up with people you are interested in staying in touch with. Call them up, send them an email or arrange to meet for a coffee or drink.
4. Treat everyone the same – and as if they are the most important in the world (at least while you are talking to them).
5. Get involved in clubs and activities. Force yourself to go out and be with others.
6. In conversations, stick to safe topics before you know someone well. Don’t be quick to share your political or religious views, or to go on about your pet grievances.
7. Make sure you come across as someone who’s friendly the first time you meet someone new. Greet them warmly, smile, share your name and ask them theirs.
8. Be aware of other peoples’ culture and be sensitive to any potential differences. You don’t want to offend other people – either deliberately or inadvertently. The goal is to be seen as a person who is friendly, respectful and warm.
9. Don’t rush your interactions with people as that sends the message that you’re not interested in them, or what they have to say.
10. Don’t be false – just be your normal self. People would prefer to find out who you are.
1. See it as a process, not a one time event. When you make a change in your life, there are lots of small adaptations to be made. It takes time to process and adjust to those changes – so be patient with yourself.
2. Change the way you think about change. Try to see it in a positive light. Even although there are lots of negatives and challenges, you’re likely to benefit in the end.
3. Face your feelings, and especially the negative ones. If you don’t, they’ll simmer beneath the surface and make it harder for you to cope. Feelings are neither good nor bad. They just are. If you feel bad, you feel bad!
4. Notice any areas where you have control as that will help you to feel less trapped or boxed in.
5. Pay attention to your thoughts and attitudes – and choose to look for the positives, and to frame uncertainties in a hopeful way.
6. Stay in touch with people who care, and can act as a support in this time of change.