COUNSELLING BLOG

Posts tagged Winners

3,533 notes

Tips for Getting What you Want out of Life

1. You need to begin by thinking about what you want your life to look like. It’s important to be concrete and specific here – not general and vague. Then, use that information to set clear goals for yourself.

2. Be confident and believe in yourself. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t have what other people have, or should be that individual you’d really like to be. If you’re willing to work hard, and to pay the price required, then you can have what you want and find the niche for you.

3. Keep your focus on your goal – don’t get sidetracked from your dream. You’ll have to keep on going and to push through trying times. Remember, the prize is worth the effort; you’ll be glad you persevered.

4. Don’t give into temptation to go for lesser goals, or to do something attractive that won’t lead anywhere. Don’t pretend that you’ll be happy if you give up on your dream. You’ll wish that you’d be stronger and looked at the “long-term”.

5. If you slip up – just get over it – and move on with your plan. It doesn’t mean it’s over. Get back on track again. The goal is too important to waste time on regrets. Your focus is the future, and what will take you there.

6. Recognise your weaknesses – and then plan to manage them. That way, you won’t be taken by surprise, and you’ll have some strategies.

7. Finish what you start, and don’t leave loose ends untied. You have to be committed, and thorough, to achieve. Being lazy or half-hearted will hamper your success.

Filed under counselling psychology therapy self help self improvement inspiration motivation goals success mental health winners online counselling college

2,236 notes

Tips for Surviving Tough Times

1. Remind yourself that you still have options (even if they aren’t all appealing at the moment).
2. Focus on those few things that are going well (even if you have to scratch your head and really, really think!)
3. Decide what you can do … and then just take the next small step. And then, when you’ve done that, take another tiny step.
4. Admit how you are feelings; admit your greatest fears o fight, and persevere.
5. Let go of all the oughts, and the musts and the shoulds. Demands and expectations will only wear you down.
6. Ensure your life is balanced – and make sure you make the time to relax, have some fun, to chill out, and have a laugh.

Filed under counselling psychology therapy self help self improvement inspiration motivation goals success winners mental health mental illness online counselling college

1,900 notes

The Traits of a Winner

1. They have a dream. Without a dream, our life lacks focus – and we’re in danger of drifting and going nowhere at all.

2. They prepare for whatever they need to do – and knowing they’re prepared breeds inner confidence.

3. They are totally focused on what’s happening now – and are not distracted by the future or the past.

4. They are full of passion and a zest for life. That drives them forward – so they never give up.

5. They’re committed to doing the work that is required. They understand that winning will involve some sacrifice.

6. They accept responsibility for their own life. They know it’s up to them to set and reach their goals.

7. They have perseverance and tenacity – so they keep on going when they meet with obstacles.

8.  They pay attention to the little things. They don’t cut corners, or ignore when things go wrong.

9. They have an optimistic and positive approach. They understand the value of a good attitude.     

10. They strive for perfection and they want to do their best. They compete against themselves to push the boundaries and excel.

Filed under counselling psychology therapy winners goals success inspiration motivation self help self improvement mental health online counselling college

1,879 notes

The Traits of a Winner

1. They have a dream. Without a dream, our life lacks focus – and we’re in danger of drifting and going nowhere at all.

2. They prepare for whatever they need to do – and knowing they’re prepared breeds inner confidence.

3. They are totally focused on what’s happening now – and are not distracted by the future or the past.

4. They are full of passion and a zest for life. That drives them forward – so they never give up.

5. They’re committed to doing the work that is required. They understand that winning will involve some sacrifice.

6. They accept responsibility for their own life. They know it’s up to them to set and reach their goals.

7. They have perseverance and tenacity – so they keep on going when they meet with obstacles.

8.  They pay attention to the little things. They don’t cut corners, or ignore when things go wrong.

9. They have an optimistic and positive approach. They understand the value of a good attitude.     

10. They strive for perfection and they want to do their best. They compete against themselves to push the boundaries and excel.

twitter

Filed under counselling psychology therapy winners self improvement self help inspiration motivation goals success education mental health online counselling college

371 notes

Some Differences between Winners and Losers

Research indicates that winners and losers are largely defined, and determined, by their thinking and attitude to life. Check out the list below and see which side you think you’re on.

Winners

1. Take responsibility for their life

2. Focus on solutions

3. View crises as opportunities

4. Appreciate the present, learn from the past, imagine possibilities and set goals for the future

5. Take control of their future; don’t just blindly follow the crowd, or do what others want them to do

6. Face their fears and expand their comfort zone

7. Are givers not takers

8. Listen to others, and weigh what they have to say

9. Look for opportunities to learn (attend seminars, read books etc); find like minded people who can help them get ahead

10. Helps others who need help; help others to win.

Losers

1. Adopt a victim stance; blame others for their problems, or when things go wrong

2. Focus on their problems; whine, complain and stay stuck

3. Are fearful when faced when faced with opportunities – and cling to the familiar and known

4. Are always harping back to the past; never take the initiative or try to imagine a better future

5. Don’t know what they want in life; just follow the crowd instead of thinking for themselves

6. Don’t take risks; are afraid of failure; and retreat into their comfort zone

7. Are takers not givers

8. Are quick to speak and to voice their own opinion – and are not interested in others’ points of view

9. Consider themselves experts

10. Are only interested in what will benefit them.

Filed under counselling psychology therapy Winners success goals inspiration motivation self improvement self help online counselling college

91 notes

Some Differences between Winners and Losers

Winners and losers are largely defined, and determined, by their thinking and attitude to life. Check out the list below and see which side you think you’re on.

Winners

1. Take responsibility for their life

2. Focus on solutions

3. View crises as opportunities

4. Appreciate the present, learn from the past, imagine possibilities and set goals for the future

5. Take control of their future; don’t just blindly follow the crowd, or do what others want them to do

6. Face their fears and expand their comfort zone

7. Are givers not takers

8. Listen to others, and weigh what they have to say

9. Look for opportunities to learn (attend seminars, read books etc); find like minded people who can help them get ahead

10. Helps others who need help; help others to win.

Losers

1. Adopt a victim stance; blame others for their problems, or when things go wrong

2. Focus on their problems; whine, complain and stay stuck

3. Are fearful when faced when faced with opportunities – and cling to the familiar and known

4. Are always harping back to the past; never take the initiative or try to imagine a better future

5. Don’t know what they want in life; just follow the crowd instead of thinking for themselves

6. Don’t take risks; are afraid of failure; and retreat into their comfort zone

7. Are takers not givers

8. Are quick to speak and to voice their own opinion – and are not interested in others’ points of view

9. Consider themselves experts

10. Are only interested in what will benefit them.

Filed under counselling psychology therapy self help self improvement winners losers success motivation coaching online counselling college

20 notes

The Secrets of Success

 Why are some people so successful in life? What is the secret behind their success? It’s not just being smart, working hard or taking risks; it’s not just “who you know” and having influential friends.

The Investors Business Daily (a financial newspaper) decided to research this a few years ago. To do this, they looked at the traits of successful investors, industry leaders and entrepreneurs. They then created a list of the ten common traits that appeared to contribute to business success.

Here’s what they concluded:

1. Pay attention to your thoughts as they determine your future: Always be positive and develop a “can do” mind set. Steer clear of negative people who would seek to undermine your commitment to your goals. Focus on success, and not on failure.

2. Be concrete and specific when you dream and set goals: Write down the steps that will lead you there, then track your progress and make changes if you need to.

3. Take action: Goals are just words until you actually do something. Every day take a step that moves you in the right direction.

4. Be a life-long learner: Get more training, take a class and acquire news skills. Keep reading widely to expand your knowledge base.

5. Be tenacious, persistent and don’t give up:Hard work is behind every winner’s success. There are no easy answers and no free lunch.

6. Process the facts and the details:Get information and feedback. Notice what works and what doesn’t.

7. Stay focused: Don’t be distracted by people or things. Prioritise your time and stay focused on your goals.

8. Be innovative and creative: Following the crowd doesn’t take you very far. Don’t be afraid to try something new, and give yourself permission to think outside the box.

9. Develop and practise good people skills: To be effective, we need to learn what motivates and brings the best out of others. Also, we need to deal with people in a way that is respectful, open, firm and fair.

10. Be responsible, reliable and dependable: Your word must be your bond, you must do what you say, and always follow through on your commitments to others. If this block is not in place, then nothing else will matter!

Filed under Christian counselling coaching counselling human resources inspiration life online counseling college personal growth psychology secrets success training winners information