Symptoms of self-loathing
People who struggle with depression or anxiety can often have a running internal monologue of self-loathing thoughts. Some of the following may be typical:
- I am worthless.
- I deserve the pain from my mistakes.
- I deserve to be treated poorly.
- I feel things differently than other people - they are better than I am.
- I am weak, pathetic, and too sensitive.
- I am stupid for being hurt by this, and people will laugh at me if I admit that I am hurting.
- I don’t deserve to be comforted.
- People just put up with me.
- I hurt everyone; people should stay away from me.
- People expect the worst of me; why bother trying?
- Everything I do is a disaster.
- I can’t live up to anyone’s expectations.
- I’m a failure at everything.
How to Interrupt Negative Self-Talk:
If you struggle with depression or self-loathing, it is important to see a therapist so that you can work together to find a combination of therapy and medication that can assist you. The following things are commonly used to interrupt negative self-talk and thoughts of despair and worthlessness:
- Treat yourself the way you treat your friends. You deserve better than hating yourself.
- Do something different - stand up, take a walk, sing - to interrupt the negative self-talk.
- Take a few moments and breathe deeply, breathing in your surroundings.
- Talk back to the negative self-talk. If it’s saying, “I’m worthless,” say “I’m awesome.”
- Talk with it; exaggerate whatever the negative self-talk. Either it’ll make you cry or laugh.
- Visualize yourself as a worthy person.
- Question the validity of the negative self-talk.
- Identify the reasons for the negative self-talk, write them down, then come up with reasons that the negative self-talk is wrong.