1. Let go of anger. When we erupt in anger we often feel much worse. Hence, it’s better to cool off and to work on staying calm.
2. When people treat you badly it’s rarely “about you”. More often it tells you how that person is feeling, or some other issue that is bothering them.
3. You’re not the only one who has struggled with this issue – so don’t feel so awful, or put yourself down.
4. Enjoy the good times and savour every moment as life is a precious gift to be enjoyed.
5. Work and be persistent as it’s worth the slog and pain. In the end it makes a difference as the pay off is success.
6. You need to find a passion and set yourself some goals if you want to go somewhere, and makes something of life.
7. All relationships can teach us so much about ourselves. Both the good and the bad show us who we really are. They reveal what we think, and how we feel, about ourselves – as well as what our values and our expectations are.
There are 6 main types of loneliness:
1. Interpersonal loneliness: This is the result of losing a significant, or intimate, relationship.
2. Social loneliness: This is where a person is on the fringes of a group, excluded from a group, or is actively rejected.
3. Cultural loneliness: This is where a person belongs to a different culture and feels that they don’t fit, or belong, in the new culture.
4. Intellectual loneliness: This is where a person feels intellectually, or educationally, out of synch with their peers, their family or their social group.
5. Psychological loneliness: This is where a person has experienced a trauma that separates them out from others around them. That is, it’s something other people can’t fully understand.
6. Existential or cosmic loneliness: This is an isolating loneliness experienced by a person who is facing death.
1. Keep a dream journal next to your bed. Write down your dream in as much detail as possible, no matter how ridiculous it seems.
2. Look for patterns and recurring themes. However, don’t try to assign a plot or meaning. It is better to let meaning emerge over time.
3. Be skeptical of dream interpretation aids or of dream interpretation dictionaries. Usually the meaning is personal, highly individual and unique. It’s not something that you can find in a book.
4. Look for obvious meanings such as what you recognize from your daily life and life experiences. Don’t just delve deeper and assume the meaning’s hidden.
5. Look at experiences that aroused strong emotions (since as feeling terrified or being anxious or upset) and see if these tie in with what happened in the dream.
6. Notice when your thoughts and insights seem to resonate with you – as often that you are closer to the meaning.
1. Choose not to feel too anxious or to fear what’s in the future. Often, things turn out much better than we thought that they would do.
2. Allow yourself to dream about - and then plan for - the future … But still work hard today as that determines your tomorrow.
3. Don’t simply grit your teeth and try to make it through the day. Decide to find the “positives”, and good things on the way.
4. Don’t rest on your successes as that was yesterday. The past has gone forever – but the future lies ahead.
5. Let go of hurts and grievances: they’ll only pull you down, consume your energy and leave you feeling sad and tired.
6. Be optimistic, smile and have a positive outlook. It brightens how you feel, helps us get the most from life.