May 2013
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“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in...”
– Deepak Chopra
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8 Benefits of Smiling
1. It makes us seem trustworthy: We generally interpret a genuine smile to mean that this is someone who is honest and trustworthy. Those who smile are rated higher in generosity, in extraversion and in friendliness
2. If you smile when you get caught you’re more likely to get off: Somehow we think that those who smile are really nicer people so we tend to be willing to treat them leniently.
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“When we place more value on what other people think of us than on what we think...”
– Suzanne Selfors
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“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive...”
– Steve Maraboli
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Relationship Check Up
A healthy relationship means that both members of the couple are…
1. Communicating with each other: Talking about problems without screaming and shouting; listening to each other, and respecting their viewpoint; being willing to adapt and to sometimes change their mind.
2. Showing respect for one another: Valuing the other person’s culture, beliefs, viewpoints, opinions and boundaries. Also,...
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“You can’t go on like you’re going to start really living one day,...”
– Perry Moore
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How to Achieve Anything
1. Stop fantasising: Those with too rosy a picture of the future tend to put less effort into reaching their goals. Instead, it’s better to be open to some things going wrong. It will help you see the obstacles - and think through beating them.
2. Visualise process NOT outcome: If you can think through all the steps you will forge a better plan … and it will also help reduce anxiety.
3. Be...
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“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your own worst enemy. The...”
– Laurie Helgoe
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“What do you say when the feelings don’t fit into words?”
– Tammara Webber
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How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Do you always give in, or let other people choose, or hide what you think, or never ask to have your way? Perhaps you fear disapproval or disappointing others, and the last thing you want is to make somebody mad. If this profile describes you then you may be a people pleaser … and maybe it is time to stand up for yourself. Below are some tips that can help you with this:
1. Think of five occasions...
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“Holding on to things only breaks your heart.”
– Mitch Albom
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7 Tips to Help Students get Organized
1. Get up early on school days. Allow yourself plenty of time to get ready in the morning (and don’t switch off your alarm clock).
2. Prepare your clothes and school supplies the night before.
3. Prepare a “to do list” for each day. Do this in the evening, before you go to bed.
4. Have a designated study area (that doesn’t include in front of the TV). Keep this free of clutter, with essential...
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“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too...”
– Ernest Hemingway
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“I’ve always been a very good judge of people. That’s why I like so...”
– Donna Van Lier
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How to Deal with Different Types of Roommates
Roommates can be divided into the following types:
1. The thoughtless roommates: This is the person who leaves their stuff scattered around the room and never cleans or tidies up after themselves. First, remember that he or she is not deliberately trying to annoy you. However, you need to discuss this or nothing will change. When you do that, don’t come across as being angry and accusatory....
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“In order to fly, you have to let go of the world you’re hanging on to.”
– Kurek Ashley
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How to Move Forward and Make the Most of Life
1. Pay attention to what bugs you – it could be telling you something important about yourself.
2. Don’t just live with blah or negative feelings. Decide that you will fight to have a happier life.
3. Don’t change or stifle your personality. You’re valuable and special – so be true to who you are.
4. Pay attention to your physical symptoms. They may be highlighting unresolved frustrations,...
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“What made you happy once may not make you happy now.”
– Jodi Picoult
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“Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once...”
– Jackson Kiddard
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Tips for Improving Your Memory
1. Try and give your work your full and undivided attention. Don’t multitask or flip between activities when it is important to retain what you are learning.
2. Study over a number of equally spaced sessions instead of cramming the week before exams. That allows you to gradually consolidate your learning.
3. Organize your material in a related and logical way as it’s easier to memorize your...
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“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what...”
– Steve Maraboli
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Some Random Findings from Psychology
1. Men use around 12,500 words a day whereas women use around 22,000 words a day.
2. Having a pet enhances your relationship skills.
3. Laughing reduces stress and helps to strengthen your immune system.
4. Laughter and smiling are contagious
5. Six foods that have been shown to improve your mood include oatmeal, cereal, salmon, milk, dark chocolate and bananas.
6. People who drink a moderate...
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“Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want...”
– Unknown
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“I don’t get nearly enough credit in life for the things I manage not to say.”
– Meg Rosoff
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How to Deal with Feelings of Social Awkwardness
1. Realize that you’re not the only one. The reality is that most of us worry about the same kinds of things – such as whether others like us, are bored by others, or the kind of impression we’re making.
2. Try to uncover the roots of your anxiety. There may be a variety of reasons for feeling self-conscious, such as having had a bad experience in the past, feeling that you’re with...
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“We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose...”
– J.K. Rowling
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10 Easy Ways to Brighten Someone’s Day
1. Be generous with your smiles
2. Listen attentively when people talk to you.
3. Be warm and friendly. If you don’t know the people in the group, be the first one to introduce yourself.
4. Pay others compliments (make sure they are genuine – and not fake).
5. Be considerate and polite to both friends and strangers.
6. If you’re going to a party or social event, offer to be the...
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“Don’t let your struggle become your identity.”
– Sober Recovery
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“Nothing can wear you out like caring about people.”
– S.E. Hinton
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“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul.”
– Napoleon Hill
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Tips for Looking more Confident
1. Pay attention to your posture. Stand straight, and don’t slouch.
2. Smile.
3. Look people in the eyes. Averting your gaze or looking down at your feet sends the message that you’re feeling insecure.
4. Take your time - so you look more relaxed and ease with yourself, and with your ideas and decisions.
5. Speak slowly, carefully and with self-belief. Don’t mumble or continually apologize...
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“Love, no matter how you come at it, is a huge risk.”
– Erwin McManus
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Developing Effective Study Habits
Below are some tips to help you develop the attitudes and habits which lead to success:
1. Take responsibility for yourself, and your failure or success.
2. Understand that you’ll need to priorities the way you use your time and your energy. Make your own decisions, and don’t let your friends dictate what’s important, and how much you should work.
3. Figure out when your most productive work...
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“Take it from me: if you hear the past speaking to you, feel it tugging up your...”
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“People, I have discovered, are layers and layers of secrets. You believe you...”
– Veronica Roth
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Tips for Showing Kindness
1. Try to always be positive, affirming and encouraging.
2. Be willing to help others.
3. Notice the little things that make a difference to others – and do them.
4. Don’t hold grudges – forgive and move on. Accept we all make mistakes at times.
5. Be patient and understanding.
6. Be generous, large hearted and happy to share.
7. Be willing to put yourself out for others. Share your...
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“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.”
– Kurt Cobain
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Why do we procrastinate?
Procrastination is a problem for most people – and for some individuals it becomes a way of life. We tend to put things off until we’re backed into a corner, and we’re staring at a deadline, and feeling super stressed. So what are the reasons for procrastinating?
1. Poor work habits. There are some who procrastinate on everything. They are always way behind and never schedule anything. They say...
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“Sometimes I get so immersed in my own company, if I unexpectedly run into...”
– Kazuo Ishiguro
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“She thought she was independent and strong, but she got one small taste of love...”
– Ann Brashares
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10 Easy Ways to Brighten Someone’s Day
1. Send them an encouraging text or message.
2. Give them some home-baked cookies or some beautifully packaged chocolates.
3. Send them a card, or leave a handwritten note on their desk.
4. Offer to do something for them, or to help them with something they are struggling with.
5. Pay them a (genuine) compliment.
6. Thank or praise them in front of others.
7. Notice, and comment on, their...
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“Self respect. If you don’t have it, the world will walk all over you.”
– Sarah Dessen
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10 Traits that Lead to Success
1. Independence
2. Self-confidence
3. Persistence
4. Creative thinking
5. Being thick skinned
6. Knowing who you are and what you want from life
7. Setting clear goals – and going after them
8. Staying focused
9. Optimism
10. Passion and a zest for life.
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“You can’t just switch off your feelings because the other person did.”
– Sophie Kinsella
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“The girl in the mirror wasn’t who I wanted to be and her life wasn’t...”
– Francesca Lia Block
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What is Social Anxiety Disorder
Social anxiety is the fear of social situations and the interaction with other people that can automatically bring on feelings of self-consciousness, judgment, evaluation, and inferiority.
Put another way, social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression. If a person...
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“If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing you are...”
– Mark Houlahan
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The 10 Commandments for a Good Life
1. I accept that I’m not perfect, and there’s no perfect time – Too many people are hanging around and waiting for the perfect opportunity – or the time when they are perfect and have all the skills they need. But life rewards effort; so get out there and work hard … and eventually you’ll find that you succeed and reach your goals.
2. I can’t please everyone no matter how hard I try – No matter...
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“Life would be a lot easier if conversations were rewinadable and erasable, like...”
– Sophie Kinsella 