“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.”—Elizabeth Wurtzel
“When you’re surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you’re by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don’t feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you’re really alone.”—Fiona Apple
“I didn’t want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep. And that’s really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare, like when you wake up from a nightmare you’re so relieved. I woke up into a nightmare.”—Ned Vizzini
1. Treat yourself the way you would treat a person who you loved, highly valued, and cared about.
2. Always love yourself – no matter what!
3. Only say positive, compassionate, understanding and affirming things about, and to, yourself.
4. Hold your own hand in tough and stressful times. Don’t abandon yourself, or let yourself down.
5. Respect yourself, and the efforts that you’re making to be a better person, and to change and to grow.
6. Understand your limitations, be patient with yourself. Accept that it takes time to master anything at all.
7. Be kind to yourself when you feel self-critical, or you want to be judgmental and hard on yourself.
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.”—Steve Maraboli
“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are - what others say is irrelevant.”—Nic Sheff
“Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds.”—David Deida (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
“But there are moments when one has to choose between living one’s own life, fully, entirely, completely — or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the world in its hypocrisy demands.”—Oscar Wilde (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
“If you reveal everything, bare every feeling, ask for understanding, you lose something crucial to your sense of yourself. You need to know things that others don’t know. It’s what no one knows about you that allows you to know yourself.”—Don DeLillo (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
1. You matter. Your thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, wishes, longings, fears, anxieties – they all matter.
2. There is no-one else like you. You can play a unique role in the world and in other peoples’ lives. The world will be a poorer place without your own very special contribution.
3. You were made to be loved, wanted and treasured. It’s not just a matter of accepting or putting with who you are. You were meant to be valued and cherished by others.
4. You were made to live a full and happy life.
5. You were made to have purpose and to go after your dreams – to feel that you achieve and your life is meaningful.
6. Your life is a gift – it is given as you matter. You’re a beautiful person. Be all that you can be.
1. Set aside some time to think through why you feel you’re not good enough, or don’t deserve to be loved. Then actively counter each of those reasons. This is a really crucial step for you to take.
2. Make a list of at least 10 of your positive traits and strengths. Each day, add at least 2 more items to your list.
3. Commit to only saying positive and affirming things about yourself – that is, your face, your body, your personality, your abilities, and so on.
4. Each day, tell your body how much you appreciate it.
5. Hold your head high, smile, look people in the eye, and always speak slowly, and with confidence.
6. Have the courage to list and face some of the worst mistakes you’ve made, or some of the challenges you’ve found hard to overcome. Then, gently admit to yourself that you are not perfect. In fact, none of us is perfect, and we all start from different places in life. What has been hard for you may have been easy for someone else. Choose to not be so hard on yourself – forgive yourself for EVERYTHING and then just let it go!
7. Go through your closet and experiment with your clothes until you find something that you feel really good in. Choose to wear that – and to buy other outfits that make you feel good about yourself and your appearance. Get rid of clothes that lower your self-confidence or self-esteem.
8. Learn to listen to your body and mind, and treat what they are saying with kindness and respect. If you are tired, rest. If you are feeling worn down or emotionally drained, then withdraw and do something that will help to build you up.
9. Do something nice for yourself each day. Buy yourself some flowers, some new clothes, some music … or go for a jog, get your hair or nails done …. Whatever makes you feel pampered and special and loved.
10. Give yourself permission to say no to the things that make you unhappy, or that your energy.
1. To be so strong and resilient that nothing will destroy your peace of mind.
2. To offer love, hope and acceptance to every person you meet.
3. To make all your friends feel they are special and valuable.
4. To always look on the bright side of life, and to always believe that you will get there in the end!
5. To always think the best, hope for the best, and believe the best.
6. To be happy when things go well for others.
7. To forgive both yourself and others, to put the past behind you, to welcome each new day as a fresh opportunity.
8. To greet the world with a smile, and to choose to look for the positives.
9. To focus on your growth and self-development development, instead of criticising others and looking for their flaws.
10. To be committed to living a rich, full and meaningful life.
“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do.”—Frida Kahlo (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
“People need to be encouraged. People need to be reminded of how wonderful they are. People need to be believed in - told that they are brave and smart and capable of accomplishing all the dreams they dream, and more. Remind each other of this.”—Stacey Jean Speer
“So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism.”—Jon Krakauer (via onlinecounsellingcollege)